How my getting dumped is going to be good for you.
Yes, good things can come from pain.
Last week, I got dumped. It’s not the first time, and given my track record, it may not be the last.
Life can really suck. It can, out of nowhere, throw you into a truly painful place.
And seemingly for no good reason. I mean… I just needed time you know? To think things through, to sort things out – not just regarding him but regarding my own damn life. I’d had a lot going on: stress over work, aging parents, a visiting relative, an old knee injury that re-appeared out of nowhere and sent me hurling headfirst down half a flight of stairs. I’d just had a birthday, and my birthdays are notoriously terrible (the one day a year I feel the universe is out to get me). And I’d had a boyfriend who was amazing but with whom I sometimes felt… alone. Alienated. In ways that I believed could have… should have… been resolved.
These things require time and energy to appropriately process. These experiences beget decisions you don’t want to make on a dime, especially …
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