Want better circumstances? Stop weighing options and start at the end.
If you're starting with options, you could be compromising your chances. But it's OK; I got you.
A lot of us want better. Better job. Better friends. Better relationship.
Many of us do more than just wish: we work at making improvements. We look for a different job. We seek out new friends. We get on a dating app.
When we make these types of changes, we are making decisions, and when we make these types of decisions, we typically start by sorting through our options. We ask, “What jobs are out there for me?” We wonder, “Who at work/school/the gym might I befriend?” We swipe on whoever happens to be on our dating app.
It seems reasonable, when making choices, to start by looking for options. After all, choosing the best option what decision-making is all about? But this is not the best way to go. Starting with options can actually get you off track before you even get started.
“Convenient” is not the same as “best.”
When we start with options, we think about what exists in the present. We examine possibilities we easily see in front of us. This i…
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