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Living means choosing. Whether you believe your choices matter or not.

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Is it harder to lose someone you’re close to, or someone you should have been close to? The answer might come quickly to some, but it is not obvious to me.

When someone you’re close to passes away, you grieve the loss of what was. You ache over the empty space they leave behind, the time you can no longer share with them. But when someone you should have been closer to passes on, regret besieges you. You grieve what could have been: the conversations you could have had, the love you should have given – if you could have just gotten over yourself.

At least that’s how I feel, sitting here, contemplating the recent passing of someone I reserved part of my heart for but did little, if anything, to show it.

Death is definitive. It eliminates possibilities. It eradicates opportunities. It is the most irreversible thing. But life… life is the opposite. It is full of possibilities. It surrounds you with openings that lead to new paths, novel experiences, better futures. W…